If someone you love is hooked in an addiction and creating chaos, confusion and hopelessness in your world, a professionally led intervention is likely the answer. When you love someone hooked on destructive substances, behaviors or relationships, your aching heart, mounting frustration and deteriorating hope make you just want to scream or cry! You can do more. You can intervene effectively. You can change your life and theirs.
Inside and outside the Church, more and more people find themselves progressively overcome by alcohol, drugs, gambling, eating disorders or sex and relationship addictions. Once entrapped, these people drag family and friends into the hopeless downward spiral of their diseases. Growing numbers of Ministry Professionals and their families find themselves in these desperate straights as well. Appropriate and strategic intervention can bring hope to shattered people and begin the recovery process.
You may already have tried “everything” with your addicted loved one. You’ve taken them to a counselor, begged for them to get help or even carefully and earnestly practiced “tough love” with little or no success. They may have refused all help, threatened to never speak to you again and gotten worse. Your life and theirs may be littered with failed attempts, little used recovery plans and empty promises. You may be thinking, “nothing works.” If this is your experience intervention is what you need.
Professionally led interventions with trained and committed family members dramatically motivate addicts and change family systems. 92 percent of interventions led by interventionists result in the struggling family member going to treatment within a week of the intervention. An intervention can move your loved one from refusing help to getting the help he needs no matter what you have tried before.
An intervention is a compassionate and intentional gathering of people who want a loved one’s destructive behavior to end. Its purpose is to motivate a person resisting help to agree to recieve help. When professionally led, it is an educational and experiential process providing you and your loved one a powerful invitation to change the chaos and hopelessness in which you find yourselves. It is an opportunity to create a new freedom, realistic hope and a fresh opportunity for significant life change.
Typically two kinds of interventions are practiced. “Family” interventions and “work place” interventions, as their names suggest, are either initiated by the family or the work community. There may be “work” people at a family intervention and “family” people at a work place intervention. Either kind can be powerfully effective.
Many of the Senior Pastors we have helped are exactly as you describe. When their spouses interact with us we prayerfully plan how to best begin interacting with the Senior Pastor. The kind of Senior Pastor you describe is wounded, hurting and needs help. When compassionately approached his responses are most often surprisingly productive. The blaming, authoritarian person is for certain trapped in self deception. His most difficult problem is his perception he has no problem. There are lots of reasons to hope in this situation if the spouse is willing to initiate getting help. Almost 80% of the pastors we help receive the help they need after their the spouses first make contact with us.
How do you help your senior pastor get help for an addiction that they are unwilling to admit they have? they have not seen that it has caused chaos in their family unit and that their spouse wants to leave them. the senior pastor has a very authoritarian type demeanor and believes that everyone else is the blame for whatever they are going through.